Accepting the Ego
We, as humans, are programmed to identify with the ego (i.e. the false self, or mind-generated self) and to believe the thoughts that appear in our mind that come from the ego. Following this false self is like following a false master, and realizing this can only improve your life. Just because most people don’t realize the egoic mind is unhelpful and useless doesn’t mean it isn’t true. Most people are still caught in the illusion that they are who their egoic mind tells them they are and that life is the way their egoic mind tells them it is. However, many are waking up now and seeing just how untrue what it says is.
Once we start to see this, there is often a tendency to go to battle with the voice in our head—to argue with it, tell it to go away, and feel angry or upset by it. This reaction is actually a reaction on the part of the ego to its own discovery. The ego takes control once again by resisting and fighting itself, which is how the ego deals with life in general. Going to battle with the ego is just more ego. When we do this, we are still not at peace with life or ourselves.
When we have truly stepped outside the ego, there is nothing but peace and acceptance, even of the ego. After all, that which we truly are has created everything, including the illusion that we are this limited self, so it must also be in acceptance of it. This illusion serves creation, but there comes a time when it no longer serves, and that time is now. It’s time for humanity to wake up from the domination of the egoic mind and to see that it no longer needs this aspect of the mind, which has nothing to do with the functional mind that we very much need. We, as a species, are moving beyond the egoic mind, and many of us are here to herald this evolutionary advancement.
Once we see the truth about the egoic mind, the appropriate relationship to it is one of acceptance, which is the relationship that Essence, our true Self, has to it. Once we are no longer identified with the false self and aligned with Essence, we accept the egoic mind as a natural part of being human. With that acceptance comes the power to choose to re-identify with the ego or not to. Acceptance is a place of choice, while rejecting the ego or going to battle with it only keeps us involved with it. Acceptance moves us beyond involvement with it by aligning us with Essence, where the truth about the ego is seen. You accept that the ego and its negativity are part of being human. You accept and understand that the ego is false, untrue, and unnecessary and that its negativity does not define you. And once you really see this, the ego loses its power over you, the power to cause you to identify with it.
When you are identified with the egoic mind, you are following it, believing it, and loving it—unquestioningly. When you are accepting it, you are outside of it and seeing the truth about it and not giving your attention—your love—to it. What we give our attention to is what we love, so when we give our attention to the egoic mind, we are loving it. Accept that this false self exists within you and all of humanity, but give your attention, love, and allegiance to something else. Love the truth.
In painting the ego as the villain, I’m not suggesting that you reject it or go to battle with it, but that you simply see the truth about it and then choose to follow another master. Like all villains, the ego is a foil—it shows us, through contrast, what truth and goodness are. In this world of duality, the Dark and the false help us know the Light and the Truth. So, in the end, the villain is simply what drives this adventure of life from the Dark to the Light, and the ego has fulfilled that purpose perfectly.