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Loving Yourself, Part 1 from Awakening Love
Loving Yourself, Part 1 from Awakening Love
The essence of my teaching when I walked the earth and now is love. The key instruction and the summation of the Commandments is to love. What does it mean to love? What does love look like? It looks like this: “Love your neighbor as yourself” and “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” These two instructions contain the essence of my teachings and the secret to being happy and flourishing as an individual and as a society.
The first part of this, “Love your neighbor as yourself,” is a real challenge for some. “What if I don’t love myself? How do I love myself?” It isn’t a given that you love yourself, so we must start there. What does it mean to love yourself, and how do you love yourself?
Sometimes you love yourself by eating cookies or buying yourself a present. Or you might try to improve yourself to become more loveable. If more people love you, you think, then maybe you’ll love yourself. Too often, loving yourself means either indulging yourself or doing something to try to get others to love you. But that’s not what I’m talking about. These are the ego’s solutions to not loving yourself.
So, let’s talk about the ego for a moment, since the ego is the reason that people don’t love themselves. The ego is the conditioned self and the sense of yourself as an individual, apart from others. It is reflected in the voice in your head, especially in all the thoughts that begin with “I.” The ego is the sense of me, who I am, who I want to be, who I was in the past, who I will be, what I want and don’t want, and what I like and don’t like. The ego is made up of all the beliefs you have about yourself and what you believe others believe about you.
The ego is not actually real but only a sense of self built on a set of beliefs about who you are. This set of beliefs is not who you are, nor do these beliefs accurately reflect who you are, which is why the sense of self created by the ego is called the false self, as opposed to the true self, the divine self.
The ego wouldn’t be a problem in terms of loving yourself if the beliefs associated with the ego and the false self were not so negative, limiting, and untrue. The problem is that the ego and the false self it creates is an unhappy self because, at its core, it feels fearful, lacking, inadequate, vulnerable, and not good enough. What’s worse is that these feelings cause you to be unkind to others, which makes you feel even worse about yourself.
That’s why you may not love yourself and why you may have difficulty loving others: You believe the beliefs that are part of your egoic programming. You believe you are this negative, unhappy self, and believing this causes you to function poorly and behave badly toward others. Since everyone has a similar ego and conditioning, all of humanity suffers similarly.
The truth, however, is that you are a divine being, a spiritual being, an extension of God, who is temporarily playing at being human and who has an ego but is not the ego. Your ego makes you feel bad and behave badly, but your essential nature is goodness, just as God is goodness. In truth, your true self, the divine self, is the only self that exists, while the false self is a mirage.
You are not the false self. You are the divine self, but the divine self allows you to have the experience of being the false self. The divine self allows itself to become lost in the illusion of the false self until a certain point in your spiritual evolution when you awaken from this illusion. Most of humanity has yet to awaken, but many more people are awakening today than ever before.
What’s difficult about loving yourself is loving the false self, the negative sense of self created by the ego and other conditioning. When you believe yourself to be this sense of self, you feel small, weak, lacking, unkind, judgmental, fearful, angry, and unhappy—and that self is difficult to love. What isn’t difficult to love is your divine self—who you really are—because that self is pure goodness, pure love. Who you really are, your divine self, is completely lovable because your divine self is love.
Some people are easy to love because they reflect their divine nature so closely. The opposite is also true: The farther away people are from reflecting their divine nature (the more they reflect their egoic nature), the more difficult they are to love. You naturally love that which is of love, and you naturally shy away from or are repelled by that which is not of love.
Everyone has an ego, and the ego is not of love. The ego is also not evil, although it is behind all acts you would consider evil. The ego is not a thing or an entity; it’s just programming to take care of #1. This programming causes you to be self-serving, self-centered, fearful, distrusting, defensive, and aggressive.
The ego is just a sense of self, however, not something real or true. A sense of self is nothing tangible, nothing that can’t be fairly easily overlooked if its lack of realness is pointed out. The ego is programming that causes you to see life, yourself, and others through a particular lens, one tainted by fear, judgment, limitation, smallness, and a sense of lack.
The egoic programming creates a sense of being under attack or threatened by others and by life. The ego is in fear much of the time and, therefore, divorced from love. This fear is an illusion, an imagination of something fearful in the future, not based on an actual threat in the here and now.
However, when you are identified with this very primitive part of yourself, you believe in the ego’s fears and try to protect yourself any way you can, usually by trying to attain more wealth, comfort, power, security, control, success, popularity, and admiration—all things that make the ego feel safer, at least temporarily.
Everyone knows what the ego is and what it feels like because the egoic state of consciousness is the state most people live in—but not always. Sometimes the ego relaxes—you relax—and you return home to your divine nature. You feel at peace, you are content and happy, you feel good—until the ego returns, and you feel lacking, afraid, striving, stressed-out, discontent, confused, and unhappy once again.
These are two very different states of consciousness, which everyone is aware of: the state of being identified with your ego and the state of being identified with your divine self. The spiritual path and spiritual growth are all about learning to shift your state and express your divine self increasingly in the world.
It is impossible to truly love yourself when you’re identified with the ego. You can feel good about yourself and good in general momentarily—proud and elated over some success. But if loving yourself is dependent on winning or achieving something, then you’ll never love yourself or feel good for long before you’ll need to win or achieve something else to feel that way again. When you’re identified with the ego, loving yourself is a fleeting experience.
Sadly, the love for yourself, or pride, that comes from winning often doesn’t translate into being more loving or kind, into “loving your neighbor as yourself.” Instead, many who’ve achieved something of merit hold themselves above and apart from others. No, feeling good about yourself for having achieved something is not the kind of love that leads to loving your neighbor.
Being proud of yourself is not the same as loving yourself. Feeling good about yourself is feeling good about the false self, and involvement with the false self can never lead to truly loving yourself or your neighbor. And unlike love, pride doesn’t actually feel good, which is proof that pride comes from the ego.
The only thing capable of loving anything, including oneself, is the divine self, the Christ within you, the goodness/Godness within you. The ego doesn’t know how to love, not even itself. To love yourself, you must be in touch with that which loves: the Divine within you.
That could be particularly difficult if you don’t believe that the Divine—God—resides within you, that Christ abides in you as well as in me. If you believe that you are a sinner and separate from God, as many Christians are taught, you may not be aware of your own divinity, of your own inherent loving nature, as much as you could be. In truth, God is not separate from you. You are God as much as I am. You are an expression of God.
It’s ironic that Christianity extols love but makes it difficult for people to love themselves by telling them they are sinners, by keeping them tied to fear, and by holding me up as the only son of God, when I was not. I was different from most only because I had realized the truth of my divine nature. The reason I came was to show you how to bring your Christ-like attributes forward and live as I did. I was and am a model for what you can be. I did not come to be worshipped.
Honesty Is Not the Best Policy
Honesty Is Not the Best Policy from Jesus Speaking: On Embodying Christ Consciousness
Honesty is important. Without honesty, a society cannot thrive and be free. The facts are important, and being honest about the facts is necessary for a healthy and free society. Lying is being dishonest about the facts, about the truth. But what I want to talk about today is a different kind of honesty: being honest about what you think.
If what you think is what your ego or the voice in your head thinks, and most of it is, and if most of that is lies or half-truths, which it is, then being honest about what you think is worse than useless. It’s just giving voice to the conditioning and half-truths running through your mind: the judgments, assumptions, opinions, subjective beliefs, and stories that make up the ego and false self. Being honest about what your ego or false self believes only reinforces the ego, the false self, and the illusion, within yourself and within others. Being honest about lies is just more lies.
But it’s worse than that, because these lies hurt yourself and others. Lies hurt, because they aren’t meant to feel good. The truth feels good, but lies don’t. When the ego expresses its judgments, opinions, beliefs, and stories, they often hurt others. They are often unkind. But they are also unkind to yourself. They make you feel small, and they contract you energetically. It’s important to notice this. Egos hurt, and it hurts to be an ego.
People believe in being honest, so they often feel they should be honest with others about what they think. But telling your friend, for instance, that you don’t like her latest haircut (or her husband, for that matter) is not the kind of honesty that makes relationships and societies strong, and that is the test of it. If being honest isn’t loving and doesn’t empower others and leave them feeling relaxed and at peace, then that is not honesty but the ego doing what it does. What you think is not the ultimate truth, and more often than not, it is a judgment and not useful to share.
True honesty—honesty about facts, about the truth—is not unkind. How can facts be unkind? They aren’t personal. Only the ego’s honesty is unkind. So that is the rule of thumb: If being honest will be hurtful, then don’t be honest. Be kind instead, and everyone will feel good, including you.
Before telling someone what you think, examine your motives. Are you doing it for them or to them—to manipulate or hurt them, or play at being superior to them? And remember: Even if your intention is to offer useful advice, if that advice wasn’t asked for, it will likely be construed as criticism and won’t be helpful after all.
Most conversations are about what people think, about what the voice in their head thinks, not about facts, not about sharing information. They are about people’s likes and dislikes, opinions, desires, fears, judgments, assumptions about others, and stories about what happened (usually with a certain spin). In most conversations, the ego is expressing its view of the world. It puts its interior world on display for all to see.
You can learn a lot about your ego this way, by observing what it shares with others. This might be the only value in these types of conversations. At best, these conversations grease the wheels of social engagement, but if these are the only types of conversations you have, they will leave you feeling empty. What egos talk about is just not that interesting, unless you like drama, gossip, and stirring up emotions, which the ego does like.
Real conversations can’t be had between egos, who are more interested in what they, themselves, have to say than in what others have to say. Egos enjoy debating with other egos, but usually for the purpose of winning them over to their side, not so much to seek new information.
Egos are just not that interested in learning and growing. For this, the conversation has to drop out of the level of ego, out of “I think” or “I believe,” to a deeper, truer level of “I don’t know.” The mind that thinks it knows is a closed mind, while the mind that admits it doesn’t know is still open to new information. Notice how much the ego pretends to know, how attached it is to what it pretends to know, and how unwilling it is to admit it doesn’t know. So much more is unknown than known, and it is wise to be honest about that.
People who are willing to be open-minded stand a real chance of communicating, learning, and growing, but that requires that they drop out of their egos and into their Hearts, where love and the truth can be explored and discovered together.
When I say “drop into the Heart,” I don’t mean drop into your feelings, since feelings belong to the false self. I’m talking about the spiritual Heart, which is your connection to your innate wisdom, your true knowing, your intuition. When you are in your Heart, then it is truly possible to say something that is meaningful in that moment and also true in the deepest sense of the word.
When the Heart has something to say, it lets you know through an urge to speak. This sense that something wants to be said through you, while not being sure what that is, is the Heart. Then, when the Heart is ready to speak, the words come forward, and you are as surprised as anyone, because you didn’t know what you were going to say. The words just came out of your mouth. Words that come from the Heart make everyone relax, and that’s when you know you’ve spoken the truth.
Contrast that with the ego. When the ego is speaking, you also feel a push to talk, but it’s because the ego wants to talk about itself, wants attention, or wants to demonstrate that it knows something. Thoughts about what you want to say swirl around in your head, while you impatiently wait for an opportunity to speak. Then, when you do speak, you experience a tightness in your body and a self-consciousness or preoccupation with yourself, all of which signal that your ego is online. When you’ve finished speaking, there is no sense of “Ahh,” but a sense of needing more: needing approval for what you just said, needing more attention, needing to be special.
It doesn’t feel good to need. There is no peace in needing. Needing makes you feel small and contracted, not relaxed and at ease. It turns out that attempts at getting something for yourself out of a conversation only backfire, leaving you wanting more of something you can never get enough of. The ego is a bottomless pit that can never be filled.
As I have often said, contraction is a sign of ego-identification, while relaxation is a sign of being aligned with the divine self, with Truth. Lies and needs and desires and fears and preferences never leave you feeling relaxed and complete, while the truth does, whether that is a relative truth or the Truth with a capital “T.” You know when you have heard the truth because your body relaxes and feels at ease. When you hear the truth, you feel either an “Ahhh” or an “Ah-ha!”
Your body is a wonderful instrument for guiding your conversations. Even just thinking of giving voice to your ego will cause you to contract energetically. On the other hand, giving voice to the truth or something that wants to be said through you makes you feel elated and, at the same time, at peace.
These are two very different states, so they are not that difficult to distinguish, but you have to want to pay attention to your state and you have to want to stay true to the truth more than you want to follow your default. That is not so easy, since your ego really wants to do what it has always done. It wants to create drama and trouble, stir up emotions, be right, be special, and get attention.
The way around this is to, first, notice what your ego is up to. Notice the ego’s push to talk, notice what kinds of things your ego wants to say and, most importantly, notice what it is trying to get for itself by saying what it is saying. Is it trying to be right? Superior? Special? Is it trying to get attention? Is it trying to be The Helper or The Savior to others? Is it trying to enhance its position in the world or get something else it wants from others? The ego always has an agenda. What is your ego’s agenda? This is something for you to examine when you are with others.
Second, when you are with others, make a conscious effort to not speak or to speak very little. When you feel the push from your ego to speak, hold back. The more you hold back your egoic impulses, the easier this becomes. This takes practice, but with practice, you will eventually gain mastery of your ego.
The divine self is receptive. It listens, and that is really what others want from you. When you listen, love flows from you to others and then back again to you. The divine self is always kind. When you do speak, let your words be kind. Give this gift to yourself and others. Kindness is more honest than unkindness, because kindness comes from the truth—the deepest truth of all, that you are love and you are here to love. Thank you for being here. Thank you for being true to love. I am with you always.